Tips for Beating Blushing

It is not surprising that in today's "got to look good" society, facial blushing can cause people a lot of stress and worry. At its extremes, the embarrassment from blushing can become so acute that the sufferer avoids social contact as a last resort to avoid the problem.

So what can you and Hypnotherapy do to help yourself to control your blushing?

Acceptance
The first thing to understand is that blushing is a perfectly natural human response. Everybody blushes, of course some people blush more than others but it is a reassuring fact that blushing is a matter of degree, not whether you do or don’t blush. It is a natural occurrence. When you blush, the blood vessels in your face widen allowing more blood to pass through to the skin. The tiny muscles in your blood vessels usually keep the vessels slightly squeezed, but during a blushing episode, nerves in your body send signals to relax these muscles. Because this action is an automatic response, it is nearly impossible to stop once the action has begun. In fact, the harder you try to stop blushing, the redder you will usually get. Acceptance is the first step to controlling your blushing.

Relax
Blushing tends to increase as people start to get embarrassed about their embarrassment, creating a sort of vicious circle. The tenser you get as you start to blush, the more the blood is forced to the face. One trick is, when you feel it coming on is to deliberately drop your shoulders and relax your body. Breathe through your stomach, pushing it out as you breathe deeply and calmly, focusing on calmness or what is happening around you rather than not blushing. This can take a bit of practice to become second nature, so practice deep breathing and focusing on other things on a daily basis. You can learn all of this and more with a Hypnotherapy, CBT & NLP session with Erika.

Accept it, don't Fight it
You need to shift your relationship to the blushing. At the moment you are trying to hide it because you are embarrassed about it. If you can work on relaxing about it, it will get better. This will be helped by you accepting it as a current part of yourself. You can try saying to yourself "At the moment, I am a blusher". It sounds strange, but if you can bring yourself to like that part of you more, it is more likely to go away.

Hypnotherapy can introduce you to some techniques that you can employ and keep working with on your own in the future.

Other peoples' opinions
Part of the embarrassment about blushing is caused by the thought that others will see you as weak or silly. However, everyone has had the experience of being embarrassed, it shows in people in different ways. Even people who appear as very confident have their moments of self-consciousness. Remember too that often it can seem a lot worse to you then it appears to be. People are so self-absorbed that they probably haven’t noticed you blushing; in fact it is often only your own change in behaviour that draws attention to it. Does this sound like your experience?


People tease you
If people tease you and point out your blushing they tend to do this because of your reaction to them. If when they tease you, you are able to smile with them, it will usually lessen the impact of their joke and make it less likely that they will push that button in the future. This can be done in a healthy way that does not internalise your anguish, but instead shares it!


Retrain your mind
Hypnotherapy can help greatly as you can train your mind and body to relax as you feel the blushing coming on, or have the thought that you might blush. Hypnotherapy can help you to feel more confident and at ease with the situations that make tend to make you blush.

Your Standards
Remember, you are an unique individual. Like everyone else you have different factors that contribute to make you the person you are. Accept yourself for all that you are, blushing is just one of those things that make you you. The more you accept it the more you won’t mind if it happens. The more you don’t mind the less it will happen as you refind that inner confidence in you.

Ring Erika for a no obligation chat and see how along with your commitment hypnotherapy, CBT and NLP can help you achieve your goals.

By Erika Keat

Erika offers Hypnotherapy, CBT & NLP at Waterloo Therapy Rooms on Wednesdays all day, please contact Erika for more information.


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Smoking Ages You

We all know smoking is bad for our health; there is no hiding from the fact any more with cigarette packets carrying shocking images and smoking being banned from advertising. But the fact that smoking ages you will be a lurking demon in many people’s minds.The beauty industry is worth billions of pounds, but the most effective product available to help your skin remain youthful is stopping smoking.

“For smokers, middle age starts in the early 30′s as the tell tale wrinkles around the mouth and eyes begin to appear. Young female smokers are likely to be wasting their money on anti-ageing face creams if they continue to smoke,” says Amanda Sandford from Action on Smoking Health.

Smoking ages women more than men, a fact supported by many years of research by reputable medical bodies. The ageing effects of smoking on the skin are worse for women, who are much more likely to develop“smoker’s face” than male smokers. For women smoking and ageing are inextricably linked. Smoking is also linked to early onset of menopause.

Remember, when you look at your skin some of the damage caused by smoking won’t appear until ten to twenty years after you began to smoke. So if you haven’t been smoking that long and you don’t see much damage yet – don’t assume it won’t happen.

“Smoking exerts such a noticeable effect on the skin that it’s often possible to detect whether or not a person is a smoker simply by looking at his or her face. Smokers have more wrinkles and their skin tends to have a greyish pallor compared to non-smokers,”says Professor Young, Head of Dermatology at Guy’s School of Medicine, London.

So just how does smoking affect the skin in both men and women?

• Smoking restricts blood flow through the capillaries (tiny veins near the skin’ssurface) preventing oxygen and nutrients getting to the skin
• Smoking increases production of an enzyme which breaks down the supply of collagen to the skin’sstructure. Collagen supply is vital to the skin’s elasticity; it decreases with age but smoking cigarettes accelerates this process
• Smoking reduces the body’s store of vitamin A which provides protection from skin damage
• Smoking gets in the way of absorption of vitamin C – a vital antioxidant for skin protection and health
• Smokers’continual puckering from drawing on a cigarette and squinting in reaction to the cigarette smoke results in deeply wrinkled skin around the eyes and mouth –classic signs of ‘smoker’s face’

Smoking statistics will clearly tell you the risk of death and disease from your smoking habit. This is frightening enough but the fact that it ages us too is something we should be aware of.

This is what you might expect your skin to look like if you continue to smoke:

• Dull appearance to the skin – loss of skin glow and vitality
• Discolored skin (an ashy look on white skins)
• Deeper wrinkles around the mouth and eyes
• Loss of tone and elasticity above and beyond the normal ageing process

The damage done from smoking cannot be completely reversed, but the sooner you stop and begin to look after your skin and diet then you can begin to get back your youthful skin and body.

Take the first steps today to becoming a non-smoker in a positive and focused way. Your commitment and a one-off Hypnotherapy, CBT & NLP session is all it takes. Hypnosis makes it 10 times more likely that you will quit smoking for good. During the session we will look at all your smoking triggers and make sure you have the coping mechanisms, motivation and determination to become and remain a non-smoker. Why wait until the damage of smoking is showing on your skin and in your body. Take control today, call Erika see how you can take the first steps to becoming smoke-free today.

“I haven't touched a cigarette!! Today is my 16th day as a non-smoker - I'm so proud of myself but don't want to get complacent. The first few days were really tough, but since then it has got easier and I think about it less and less. I've even been out with people at work or pub and have just stood with them whilst they smoke and it’s actually been fine . I'm starting to feel better in myself, have a bit more energy and plan to start jogging next week. So thank you very much! I'm still taking it one day at a time but those days are getting easier.” Lisa, London who had a one-off Stop Smoking treatment with Erika at EKTherapies.

By Erika Keat

Erika offers Hypnotherapy, CBT & NLP at Waterloo Therapy Rooms on Wednesdays all day, please contact Erika for more information.

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Blue Monday

Apparently today 14th January is Blue Monday. It is considered the most depressing day of the year.

How can one predict the most depressing day of the year? Who knows what is going to happen on this day and the next and the one after that?

Tomorrow will be here sooner than we think, and it can be a better day. We are too good at focusing on what is missing or wrong in our life, but we can change and look at what we do have. We can start to focus on the 70% (or more) that is right in our life rather than the small amount that needs improving.

It is good to have stuff to strive for; we need goals, dreams, targets and aspirations. But it is also important to stop and appreciate where we have got to and enjoy the life that we have created for ourselves.

The world continues turning and life goes on day by day.It is up to us to make our own lives as good as we can. You can learn to work with the positive and to see what we do have in life – a Hypnotherapy, CBT &  NLP session can help you to have this outlook.


Today can be whatever you want it to be. Yes it may be cold outside, the evenings may be dark, but we have passed the shortest day of the year. Summer is on the way. We can either get there with a smile on our faces or allow ourselves to be dragged down into a negative spiral.


Take control of how you feel today. You can learn a different way of dealing with stress and let go of the anxiety in your life. Today can be the best day of your year as it is the start of working with the power of your mind, focusing on the positive and realising that we choose where we put the energy. You can choose to put it towards positive thinking; you will be amazed at how you can change your perspective and realise that life is quite an amazing thing to be involved in.

By Erika Keat

Erika offers Hypnotherapy, CBT & NLP at Waterloo Therapy Rooms on Wednesdays all day, please contact Erika for more information.

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Counselling for Anxiety

What is Anxiety?
 

Anxiety is severe tension that interferes with daily life. Its normal for people to feel anxious, even on a regular basis, but anxiety means anticipating tragedy and often worrying extremely about family, money and health, and for some, just getting through the day can cause worry.

What are the symptoms?

Trouble sleeping is common with this disorder and other physical symptoms such as fatigue, muscle aches, irritability, headaches and sweating are frequent. This can lead to problems concentrating and working effectively, therefore causing the sufferer further distress.

How can talking therapies help?

A problem shared is indeed a problem halved. A therapist is trained to listen effectively and help you find a way forward through your problems. A therapist is outside the situation, and will see the bigger picture. Often, just to talk about your problems can help release the pent-up feelings and reduce your anxiety. By having counselling you can co-manage getting life back to normal by learning to manage your life better through meeting your own needs.

Go to jonnysibbring.co.uk to find out more about how Jonny can help you with your anxiety issues

Written by Jonny Sibbring

 

how long does a counselling session last

The standard time for a counselling session is 50 minutes. The prospect of talking to someone for that length of time can be quite overwhelming, but once a session gets going, the end of the session comes sooner than you think.

During the first session, the initial few minutes will normally be spent establishing a working agreement; and in the weeks after there migh be a welcome and a recap from the week before at the start.

The main body of the session is spent exploring the issues that have been brought to the session and the last few minutes may involve a summary of what has been discussed and arrangements made for the next session.

After a few sessions a review of progress may take up around half of a session, and the final session usually involves a larger summary where the client can reflect on the progess that has been made and endings are discussed.

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Written by Jonny Sibbring

Gay Issues in Counselling

In the UK, society's relationship with homosexuality has progressed in the last few years. It is now more acceptable to be lesbian, gay or bisexual (LGB) and homophobic attitudes are more frowned upon. However many people are still exposed to homophobia at home, school, work etc.

LGB people are more likely to experience a mental health issue. Not only are they faced with coming to terms with their own sexuality but they are often exposed to the homophobic attitudes of the people around them.

Some people have trouble coming to terms with being gay, others may accept their sexuality but can be deeply affected by the homophobic attitudes they have been exposed to. This can often lead to low self esteem and other issues.
Counselling is a talking therapy that can be very beneficial for people who are experiencing difficulties that may be related to their sexuality.

Discussing your sexuality can sometimes involve talking about issues you are uncomfortable with. I aim to put my clients at ease by creating a safe, warm and friendly environment so they feel free to talk openly about what is distressing them. I want to help clients to resolve their issues so that they can really benefit from a fresh outlook.

I work flexibly with people in Waterloo, Central London and via Skype. Please contact me to book a session or to discuss your situation in more detail to see whether I can be of help.

Written by Jonny Sibbring

Jonny offers Counselling Sessions on a Tuesday at Waterloo Therapy Rooms. Check out his website for more details jonnysibbring.co.uk

Did You Watch The Plane Crash On Channel 4?

Just in case you haven’t managed to watch The Plane Crash on Channel 4 here is their description of it:

“This dramatic new documentary follows an international team of scientists, experts and elite pilots as they deliberately crash land a 170-seat Boeing 727 passenger jet to provide a once-in-a-generation chance to study the mechanics of a plane crash in real time.
The documentary recreates a common type of crash - a serious, but survivable 'forced landing' - in order to study the crashworthiness of the aircraft's airframe and cabin, examine the impact of crashes on the human body, and look for possible means of increasing passenger survivability.
By crashing the plane, the programme also aims to answer key questions - such as whether sitting at the front or the rear of the aircraft, wearing a seat belt, and whether you use the brace position - can make the difference between life and death.
Fed Ex captain James 'JimBob' Slocum, who has previously survived three plane crashes, pilots the passenger jet, nick-named 'Big Flo' (after crew member Leland 'Chip' Shanle's grandmother, Florence) on her last flight. Putting their lives on the line, JimBob and the rest of the crew aim to parachute from the plane just minutes before impact, after setting it on a crash course.
The plane will then be flown remotely until impact from a chase plane by former US Navy pilot Leland 'Chip' Shanle - making it the world's biggest remote controlled aircraft. Flying at 140 mph, and descending at 1500 feet per minute, the aircraft will crash land nose down in a remote and uninhabited area of Mexican desert.
Rather than carrying passengers, the plane is packed with state-of-the-art research equipment, including three crash test dummies worth $150,000 each (plus a number of simpler sand bag dummies) and accelerometers to measure the G forces on passengers.
Dozens of cameras record the crash from inside the aircraft, on the ground, in chase planes and even on the pilot's helmet.” http://www.channel4.com/programmes/the-plane-crash/episode-guide/series-1/episode-1

Many people have a fear of flying and may think I am crazy to suggest watching this program, but it is a fascinating program about airplane safety. Air travel remains statistically safer than crossing the road and flying has been proven to be twenty five times safer than driving your own car.

• 21,000 people (on average) die on the road in the USA in a 6-month period. This is approximately the same amount of all commercial air travel fatalities worldwide in 40 years
• More than 3million people fly every day
• A Boeing aircraft takes off or lands every 2 seconds somewhere in the world – all day, every day
• 1 plane in 5 million crashes. Even then people still survive plane crashes, going on to fly again

Hypnotherapy, CBT & NLP will help you to understand why you have this fear and where it comes from, and help you to feel relaxed and safe when flying. Hypnotherapy can help you to learn a new pattern of behavior, helping you to simply relax and start to enjoy the freedom of flying and all the wonderful places you can visit.

By Erika Keat

Erika offers Hypnotherapy, CBT & NLP at Waterloo Therapy Rooms on Wednesdays all day, please contact Erika for more information. 

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Treating Anxiety

In 2009 The National Collaborating Centre for Mental Health reported that around 4.4% of the adult population in England were suffering from generalised anxiety disorder.

4.4% may not sound very much, but this equates to around 2.3 million individual people!  If we add in all of the other various anxiety disorders (such as Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, phobias, Post-traumatic Stress Disorder etc.,) the number of people whose lives are blighted by some form of anxiety is probably close to 3 million.  That’s a huge amount of human suffering.

Anxiety is intimately related to fear.  Aaron Beck, one of the founders of Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, says that fear is the anticipation of being damaged in some way, while anxiety is our felt emotional reaction to that fear (Beck, A, T. 1991, Cognitive Therapy and the Emotional Disorders).  Winter, in his classic 1966 book - Origins of Illness and Anxiety - defined anxiety as a state of chronic emergency against a threat (real or imagined), where the individual is so confused and afraid as to what action to take that too little or no action is taken.

Whenever we perceive a threat we have feeling and thinking responses (of which we may or may not be conscious), which lead to some form of behavioural response:

The Fight or Flight response is a deep part of our biology and is vital for keeping us safe.  However, many of the threats we experience in the modern world do not require fight or flight (road rage, for example, is in part a fight response and is rarely, if ever, the most appropriate response).  Winter also pointed out that sometimes our response is to ‘freeze’ i.e. take no appropriate action (which as we all know so often just makes matters worse).  The ‘ideal’ response to life is ‘flow’ – where we meet life’s challenges in resourceful, appropriate and effective ways.

The fight, flight and freeze responses are governed by the ‘emotional’ brain.  These are deeper lying brain structures (such as the amygdala) over which we have little or no direct conscious control.  But, there are a great many things we can do to manage stress and anxiety more effectively.  One very simple, yet profoundly effective, way is the 7-11 breathing technique.  Try it now:

Breathe in (ideally through the nose) comfortably for the count of 7.  Momentarily hold the breath and then breathe out slowly and comfortably (ideally through the mouth) for the count of 11.  Continue breathing this way until you feel relief (but do no more than a couple of minutes at a time).  This is an unusual breathing pattern, so may take a little bit of practice.  The results are worth it though as it is the most effective breathing technique I have come across for bringing quick relief to many forms of distress. 

Another favourite of mine is the ‘dial-down’ technique: 

Picture a meter in front of you that runs from 0 – 10 (where 0 = beautifully calm and relaxed and 10 = the most stressed/anxious you can imagine being).  Notice that the calm and relaxed zone of the scale (between 0 and 3) is green, the next zone (4 – 6) is amber and the remainder (7 – 10) is red.  Sense how you are feeling and see the needle on the dial registering that value (e.g. 7 in the red zone or 5 in the amber zone).  Now see a dial connected to the meter and reach out and place a hand on the dial.  Slowly, and with expectation, begin to turn the dial toward your left-hand side.  As you turn the dial down see the meter needle moving down.  Keep dialling down until you are well into the green zone.  As you do this feel yourself becoming calmer, and your thinking clearer.  Repeat as necessary.  The trick to having this technique really work for you is to begin dialling down as soon as your feelings of stress or panic get into the amber zone.  With practice you won’t have to wait until things are already in the red zone.

These are just two examples on the many effective self-help techniques that can assist us in manage anxiety, panic and stress reactions. 

Sometimes though, we need to go a step further and address the cause or causes of our anxious, stressed responses.  This is where a skilled therapist comes in.  Treating anxiety is one of my specialisms.  Using a combination of cognitive behavioural techniques, supportive and analytical hypnotherapy and Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (see my blog “Help is available” 28^th March 2012) genuine resolution can be achieved.  If you would like any further information about treating anxiety or the way in which I work, please do contact me via my website and/or post a comment here.

© David Corr July 2012

David is a UKCP registered hypno-psychotherapist who has also trained to Master Practitioner level in NLP. He offers integrated psychotherapy and hypnotherapy at Waterloo Therapy Rooms Waterloo Body Station, The Aston Clinic in New Malden and also in Epsom,Surrey. For more information please contact David via his website: www.corehypnosis.co.uk

15 Days into Stoptober - How Are You Doing?

We are 15 days into Stoptober. How are you doing? Have you taken up the challenge? If you have you should be well on your way to being a non-smoker for good. The Nicotine is now well out of your system and your body has started to repair itself. Well done and keep going!

If you haven't taken then plunge then it's time to Stop Smoking in a positive and focused way !

Are you ready to kick the habit for good and stop being a slave to the cigarette ?

So what is the trick to giving up smoking?

The biggest thing is your own commitment and feeling that you want to become a non-smoker. Have you reached that point of being tired of being a slave to a cigarette and all the restrictions it brings with it? If yes then you are ready to become a non-smoker. You don’t have to know how you are going to do it, just simply that you want to do it. It is important to remind yourself that you are giving up nothing of value to you but gaining so much. Think of all the reasons to become smoke free, as you know there are plenty; health, smelling good, enjoying the taste of food, seeing your children or nieces & nephews get married, meeting your grandchildren, being around to a ripe old age with lungs that aren’t full of Emphysema, the money you will save. The list of the benefits you would get from being a non-smoker is endless and also personal to you and your motivation to succeed.

How can Hypnotherapy help you become smoke free?

This is the bit of great news! Using Hypnotherapy you are 10 times more likely to remain a non-smoker. Although Hypnotherapy isn’t a magic wand and still requires your commitment, it is a very powerful tool that makes sure that you have the inner focus and determination to become a non-smoker in a positive way. There is no need for Nicotine patches or gum all you need is a one-off Hypnotherapy session along with your commitment and motivation to want to become a non-smoker. I work with a combination of Hypnotherapy, CBT & NLP helping you to really understand what cigarettes mean to you on an emotional and psychological level and how you can take control of them and choose whether to have them in your life or not.

“Thanks for the session, it has really helped and I haven’t smoked since!” Jehan, London

How about if you have tried to stop before?

There are many reasons why stopping smoking may not have worked for you before. The main reason, I tend to find with the clients who come to see me, is because they didn't deal with the psychological addiction of smoking (rather than just the physical addiction). In fact, they probably put cigarettes up on some kind of a pedestal. Maybe they weren’t truly motivated to give up and didn’t really want to stop. Maybe their partner was pushing them to do it or it wasn’t the right time for them to give up. Perhaps their motivation was weak in certain situations or associations. For whatever reason they didn’t have the drive that they needed to start looking after their future health, to be able to breathe easier, taste food, not be out of breath when they climbed the stairs and so much more. If you start to focus on what you are gaining rather than the fear of what you may lose then all of a sudden cigarettes don’t seem that powerful any more.

“It has been a month since I saw you and smoking hasn’t even crossed my mind, which is amazing. Thank you!” Ben, Surrey

Feeling motivated to take control of your life and make that change?

The next step is completely in your hands. When you are ready to take control of the power cigarettes have over you, then give me a call 07952 619939 and we can talk further about helping you have the tools to become a non-smoker and remain one.

I look forward to speaking to you soon and helping you take the first exciting steps to becoming a non-smoker in a positive and focused way.


 By Erika Keat

Erika offers Hypnotherapy, CBT & NLP at Waterloo Therapy Rooms on Wednesdays all day, please contact Erika for more information.

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Can A Good Cry Be The Answer?

As a British woman I have grown up with the British stigma that still seems to be around about the stiff upper lip. Whilst there is a time to show emotions, not just sadness but also happiness, sometimes all we need is a good cry and then we can start to laugh about life again.       

In Japan, crying is expected and there is even a “crying boom”. Instead of karaoke bars after work to wind down, business people watch weepy films called “tear films” in crying clubs, to help them let go of the day.

Whilst I am not suggesting that we all join crying clubs, it may be time realise that it is ok to cry, sometimes you just need to let it out. It is not a sign of weakness, quite the opposite. Many things in life do need to be mourned over and you often need time to heal. Whilst I believe in the power of laughter and positive thoughts I also believe in forgiving yourself and allowing yourself the time to heal. Life is a roller coaster and the “downs” help you to learn and appreciate the “ups”. You can have a good cry, let it all out, clear away the cobwebs and then laugh away with a new energy having let goof the old sadness.

'When you're upset and stressed, you have an imbalance and build-up of chemicals in the body and crying helps to reduce that,' says Dr Abigael San, chartered clinical psychologist.

New research is showing that tears could actually be a way of flushing out negative chemical from our bodies. So why is it good to allow yourself to cry?
Research has found three types of tears:

Basal Tears

Basal tears contain Lysozyme, a powerful and fast acing antibacterial and antiviral agent. This is the layer of protective fluid that covers our eyeballs. This fluid is secreted by the lachrymal glands, which sit above each eye. Without this basal fluid our eyes would be in danger of drying out and become susceptible to bacterial attack.

Eye Watering

One of the most important functions crying can have is to protect our eyes from irritants and foreign bodies, such as dust or getting rid of the acidic fumes when cutting onions. These tears are known as reflex tears. When our eyes come under attack from irritants, the lachrymal glands in our eyes start stimulating more fluid to wash away the irritant and drain it from the eye.

Emotional/stress-related tears

A study by Dr William H.Frey II, a biochemist at the St Paul-Ramsey Medical Centre in Minnesota, found that there is an important chemical difference between emotional or stress-related tears and those simply caused by physical irritants – such as when cutting onions. They found that emotional tears contained more of the protein-based hormones prolactin, adrenocorticotropic hormone, and Leucine Enkephalin (a natural painkiller), all of which are produced by our body when under stress.

'Crying can help release tension and stress, as well as expressing emotions,' says Dr Abigael San,chartered clinical psychologist.

Crying is a natural part of us, just as is laughing. If you are crying all the time and feel like you can never find that high point, then you might need help to realise a feeling or help cope with stress. But it is ok to have a cry every now and then, to allow your body that emotional release. You will be surprised how much better you feel after it.

Sometimes we need to allow the tears out to make way for the laughter and those positive thoughts.


Hypnotherapy, CBT & NLP can help you to deal with any stressors you have or grievances that you feel you need to “let go” of or “deal” with, so that you can laugh more and cry through tears of laughter instead of sadness.

 By Erika Keat

Erika offers Hypnotherapy, CBT & NLP at Waterloo Therapy Rooms on Wednesdays all day, please contact Erika for more information.

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Sexual Abuse and Counselling

Sexual abuse affects many people, both men and women as adults and children. There is  research that suggests up to one in five people have suffered some form of sexual abuse prior to their 18th birthday.

Survivors of abuse may have attempted to push their memories and feelings away. This can have difficult consequences. They may have feelings of intense shame and have serious difficulty putting trust in other people. This can lead to low self esteem, depression, fear, panic attacks and physical and sexual issues.

Having counselling can help to dissolve the feelings because you can discuss your experiences in a supportive and non judgemental environment. As your counsellor I may not be able to truly know what you have been through, but I would want to get the best understanding I could by creating the right environment for safety and openness so that we could effectively work together.

We can then begin the process of reintegrating the feelings and memories so they seem less frightening. I want to build a trusting and reliable relationship where we go at your pace and respect confidentiality.

I mainly, but not always, work with males and my aim is to help clients leave counselling more empowered so they can feel more able to live their lives with a fresh perspective.

I work flexibly with people in Waterloo, Central London and via Skype. Please contact me to book a session or to discuss your situation in more detail to see whether I can be of help.

Written by

Jonny Sibbring

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Stoptober is Nearly Here – It’s Time to Stop Smoking in a Positive and Focused way

Smokers are being encouraged to kick the habit in Stoptober. During October thousands of people across England are taking part in a new 28 day challenge to stop smoking – if you stop smoking for 28 days, you are five times more likely to stay smokefree. With winter around the corner, it couldn’t be a better time to stop smoking.

So what is the trick to giving up smoking?

The biggest thing is your own commitment and feeling that you want to become a non-smoker. Have you reached that point of being tired of being a slave to a cigarette and all the restrictions it brings with it? If yes then you are ready to become a non-smoker. You don’t have to know how you are going to do it, just simply that you want to do it. It is important to remind yourself that you are giving up nothing of value to you but gaining so much. Think of all the reasons to become smoke free, as you know there are plenty; health, smelling good, enjoying the taste of food, seeing your children or nieces & nephews get married, meeting your grandchildren, being around to a ripe old age with lungs that aren’t full of Emphysema, the money you will save. The list of the benefits you would get from being a non-smoker is endless and also personal to you and your motivation to succeed.

How can Hypnotherapy help you become smoke free?

This is the bit of great news! Using Hypnotherapy you are 10 times more likely to remain a non-smoker. Although Hypnotherapy isn’t a magic wand and still requires your commitment, it is a very powerful tool that makes sure that you have the inner focus and determination to become a non-smoker in a positive way. There is no need for Nicotine patches or gum all you need is a one-off Hypnotherapy session along with your commitment and motivation to want to become a non-smoker. I work with a combination of Hypnotherapy, CBT & NLP helping you to really understand what cigarettes mean to you on an emotional and psychological level and how you can take control of them and choose whether to have them in your life or not.

“Thanks for the session, it has really helped and I haven’t smoked since!” Jehan, London

How about if you have tried to stop before?

There are many reasons why stopping smoking may not have worked for you before. The main reason, I tend to find with the clients who come to see me, is because they didn't deal with the psychological addiction of smoking (rather than just the physical addiction). In fact, they probably put cigarettes up on some kind of a pedestal. Maybe they weren’t truly motivated to give up and didn’t really want to stop. Maybe their partner was pushing them to do it or it wasn’t the right time for them to give up. Perhaps their motivation was weak in certain situations or associations. For whatever reason they didn’t have the drive that they needed to start looking after their future health, to be able to breathe easier, taste food, not be out of breath when they climbed the stairs and so much more. If you start to focus on what you are gaining rather than the fear of what you may lose then all of a sudden cigarettes don’t seem that powerful any more.

“It has been a month since I saw you and smoking hasn’t even crossed my mind, which is amazing. Thank you!” Ben, Surrey

Feeling motivated to take control of your life and make that change?

The next step is completely in your hands. When you are ready to take control of the power cigarettes have over you, then give me a call 07952 619939 and we can talk further about helping you have the tools to become a non-smoker and remain one.

I look forward to speaking to you soon and helping you take the first exciting steps to becoming a non-smoker in a positive and focused way.

By Erika Keat

Erika offers Hypnotherapy, CBT & NLP at Waterloo Therapy Rooms on Wednesdays all day, please contact Erika for more information.


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How to work with the Power of the Mind

Our thoughts, what we say and what we hear all have a powerful effect on our everyday experiences and beliefs.

Henry Ford said it perfectly:

Whether you think you can or think you can’t you’re right.

Changing our internal dialogue to positive statements makes our life better and assists us in moving forward, giving us the confidence to achieve our goals. Instead of thinking “I am not good enough”, think “I can do this”; or instead of saying “I will never be able to do that so why try”, say “I know that if I trust in myself and prepare properly I can achieve anything”. Not only will you achieve your goals but you will feel happier and healthier. Positive self-talk gives you a permanent cheerleader in your corner, one that carries positive messages to all areas of your life and helps you to move forward. Once you have this positivity nobody can take it away from you, as it comes from within you, from your own thought processes.

Replace your negative thoughts with positive ones. This can be hard at first but start by talking positively. When you have a negative thought, or catch yourself about to say something negative, stop yourself and see if you can spin it on its head by turning it into a positive one. Challenge that negative thought and question whether you are right to think that way. Soon this will become second nature and you will find yourself thinking more positively from the outset.

Begin working with these simple tools in mind:

• Expect positive results. When you set a goal expect that not only will you achieve it but you will be better than you thought.
• Actually visualize the success you want. Picture it in your mind, picture what you DO want, rather than having a list of what you DON’T want. Have an image of what you DO want, and see yourself achieving your goal.
• Surround yourself with people who have the same positive view as you. When you are with a negative person then allow their views to wash over you and focus on why you want to achieve your goal. 

Think of it like:

Suggestions/Words/Thoughts

+

Feelings

+

Beliefs

+

Behaviour

=

Success or Failure

These are just a few simple steps you can begin to work with to understand the power of your mind and to start working with it rather than against it. To understand more and learn more techniques come for a Hypnotherapy, CBT & NLP session and see how you can achieve your goals in a positive and focused way.

By Erika Keat

Erika offers Hypnotherapy, CBT & NLP at Waterloo Therapy Rooms on Wednesdays all day, please contact Erika for more information.


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Counselling for Students

Being a student can be a difficult time for lots of different reasons –

• The stress of exams and considerable amounts of writing can cause people to feel anxious on a regular basis.
• Balancing home life with studies can wear people down, leading to prolonged feelings of unhappiness and depression.
• The whole experience of working towards a future you are still not sure about can be very overwhelming and can cause changes in sleeping and eating patterns.
• Past traumatic experiences can also hold people back from doing well in their studies.
• Sometimes students find ways of distracting themselves from their problems that can be destructive and dangerous, such as excessive alcohol and drug use.

These issues can be faced by both younger and more mature students. By having counselling you will have the time and space to explore what is troubling you in a safe and confidential setting. You will be free to speak openly and honestly with a trained professional who is down to earth and non-judgemental.

I offer open ended counselling sessions so you are not constricted to a limited number of appointments. There is no minimum to the number of sessions required either. My clients leave counselling when they feel good and ready.

I am also well aware of the financial constraints faced by students and would be happy to negotiate a lower fee. When contacting me please don’t hesitate to mention that you are a student  so we can arrange a suitable price.
I work flexibly with people in Waterloo, Central London and via Skype. Please contact me to book a session or to discuss your situation in more detail to see whether I can be of help.

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Jonny Sibbring

Bye Bye Paralympics

It has been another amazing two weeks of sport and I have been lucky enough to go along to see some the athletics in the Olympic Park.

I found the whole event inspiring. From the incredible organisation to get so many people to and from Stratford safely, quickly and easily; the volunteers who were full of so much cheer; the amazing buildings themselves regenerating an area; to the incredible athletes many of whom had overcome life-changing events or illness, finding themselves being cheered on by an 80,000 strong crowd.

The energy was electric - the nearer we got to Stratfordt he more people you could see holding their countries' flags and eagerly awaiting the night's competition ahead of them. I don’t think they were disappointed.

Life doesn’t always go the way we plan or expect. It can deliver people some unfair blows but seeing what some people have done to respond to that is incredible. The commentators spoke to some athletes who said that if they had the chance to have their legs back they would choose not to because life has been so enhanced for them now. It reminds me that sometimes we can look at people and think “poor them” when actually we are the ones who are poor for judging others.

Life is ours for living! It always amazes me just what we can achieve if we go for it. We can choose to change our perspective on life and see just how wonderful it really can be.

Hypnotherapy, CBT & NLP can help you to achieve your goals and become the person you want to be.

Thank you to the Olympics and the Paralympics and to everyone who was involved in them for an amazing summer. It is one I will never forget and I hope the pride and Olympic buzz stays in the area for a long time to come.

By Erika Keat

Erika offers Hypnotherapy, CBT & NLP at Waterloo Therapy Rooms on Wednesdays all day, please contact Erika for more information. 

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Counselling for Depression

Depression is more than an off day. It is an ongoing feeling of sadness that won’t go away and can have a really negative effect on a person’s life. Causes for depression differ from physical to physiological and social issues.

 The signs and symptoms can also vary –

• Feelings of worthlessness
  
• Lack of energy
  
• A change in eating and sleeping patterns
  
• Headaches, stomach upsets or chronic pain
  
  

What is common are the overwhelming feelings that can occur.  If these feelings are affecting your day to day life then it may be time to seek help.

By having counselling, you can talk openly about how you feel in a safe environment. I am a trained professional who will listen to you without judgement, so  you can be really honest. I will help you explore how you feel so that I can help you get to the route of the problem. I can then support you to identify the positive changes you can make to lead a more rewarding life.

I work flexibly with people in Waterloo, Central London and via Skype. Please  contact me to book a session or to discuss your situation in more detail to see whether I can be of help.

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Teeth Grinding

Teeth grinding or Bruxism to give it its medical name, is a completely natural occurrence in the body. It happens when the bite is not right, if there is an imbalance - a missing tooth for example or when children’s teeth develop. It is something we do subconsciously and a lot of people will teeth-grind during their sleep. It is the body’s natural way of making your teeth fit your mouth.

So if it is natural, why is it such a problem? If you are teeth grinding because your bite is not right then working with the dentist you can correct this and the teeth grinding will stop. However, it is also increasingly common that teeth grinding is linked to stress/anxiety.

In most instances you don’t even realise you are doing it. You may wake up with a sore, aching jaw or even a headache. Anyone who has slept next to someone who grinds their teeth will know that the noise can be unbearable.

It is important to tell the dentist if you are teeth grinding so that they can monitor the wear and tare of your teeth and make sure you are not doing any lasting damage. You can get gum-shields from the dentist to help to keep your teeth apart but this doesn’t deal with the reason you are doing it.

Is it time to look at your stress levels? Hypnotherapy, CBT & NLP can help you to understand your stressors and learn a new way to manage your life so that the stress levels rarely bubble over. Stress is a part of life and we need both the ups and downs to learn and help us grow. However, we don't have to let it affect our health.

You don’t have to expect teeth grinding to be part of your life. To find out how you can take the steps today to helping your jaw stay relaxed and allowing the rest of your body time to destress, freeing time to enjoy the life that you have created, please contact Erika.

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Could Laughter be the Key to Happiness?

Laughter is infectious; we all know the amazing feeling of losing yourself in the energy of laughter. But could laughter be the key to happiness? People have started to harness this and create laughter workshops, where you go to laugh, even if it starts out as a forced laugh, the endorphins and benefits still affect your body and mood.

Research has shown the health benefits of laughter are far-reaching, studies have shown that laughter can help pain relief through the releasing of endorphins, increase the immune system, decrease stress, change the “negative” chemicals in the mind, ease conflict, lighten burdens, inspire hope, connect you to others and generally just make you feel better, more energetic and happier, bringing your body and mind back into balance.

“Your sense of humour is one of the most powerful tools you have to make certain that your daily mood and emotional state support good health.” Paul E. McGhee, Ph.D.

This may all seem a bit far-fetched, can laughing really help you to feel better ? We know the benefits of exercise and how that helps us to reduce stress hormones. It helps our bodies to feel more energetic, it clears our minds and allows us to have clear focus again. So can laughter do the same thing? If we build laughter into our day just as we do with exercise we can increase our happiness. Laughter is an incredibly strong medicine for mind and body – it is free, convenient and beneficial in so many ways.

So how do you get more laughter in your life?

We can find laughter in so many ways, maybe for you it is laughing at films or the TV, laughing with friends, comedy clubs, funny clips on line, joining a laughter workshop, the list is endless. Or if all else fails you could just fake it. Just smile and start to laugh – as with listening to a song and how it change your mood, so can laughter. Hypnotherapy, CBT & NLP can also help. This combination can help you to look at the world with a different perspective, to see the funny side in life. It is too easy to allow life to feel like a weight on our shoulders, but you can learn the tools to see life in a different way. To allow yourself the freedom to let go and just laugh and enjoy the world for what it is.

Try it now - smile, laugh or giggle and feel better about your day.


By Erika Keat

Erika offers Hypnotherapy, CBT & NLP at Waterloo Therapy Rooms on Wednesdays all day, please contact Erika for more information. 

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New Counsellor @ Waterloo Therapy Rooms

Jonny Sibbring Counselling is proud to announce it will be joining Waterloo Therapy Rooms from September 2012. Sessions will run weekly on Tuesdays from 7am til 2pm.

Jonny Sibbring is a fully qualified counsellor and member of the UK’s largest professional body for Counselling and Psychotherapy. He offers face to face appointments, as well as other sessions via Skype.

He aims to help people make a real difference in their lives. His does this by creating a safe and supportive environment where people are free to talk about the issues that concern them the most. His approach is calm, caring and above all honest. Jonny is here to help clients make positive changes in their life.

He offers –

• A wealth of experience working with a range of issues
• A friendly and professional approach
• Flexibility with appointments

Here are some of the issues he has experience working with….Depression, Anxiety, Abuse, LGBT issues, work and exam related stress.

for more information please go to jonnysibbring.co.uk

follow Jonny on Twitter @counsellorskype

Written by Jonny Sibbring

Counsellor at Waterloo Therapy Rooms

Bye, Bye Olympics

It is the end of two amazing weeks; not only did Great Britain finish third on the medal table we also managed to host an amazing event that will be remembered for years to come, for all the right reasons. It has been wonderful to see all the countries supporting their teams with such pride and passion.

It has been inspiring to watch the athletes pushing themselves to their limits and achieving amazing things. It has also helped me to realise that we don’t have to be perfect. Perfection doesn’t exist. So many of us are striving to be “perfect,” but what is perfection? I watched in awe these athletes who spent their whole life dedicated to one sport and have been focusing on the Olympics for the last four years or sometimes longer, yet they still make “mistakes.” It makes me realise that we can forgive ourselves; we can do the best we can do and be happy with that. We can learn from our mistakes and grow. If we let go of the fear of failure and trust in ourselves and our ability we can achieve the most incredible things.

We are all always growing and striving to be better versions of ourselves, the day we stop doing that is the day we stop learning.

I hope the wonderful energy of the Olympics stays with us for a long time, helping us to unite and to realise that we can achieve anything we put our hearts to.

Hypnotherapy, CBT & NLP can help you to have that same pride and self-worth, helping you to achieve your goals in a positive and focused way.

Personally I feel very proud to be British and to have been privileged enough to live in the host city of the London 2012 Olympics, I have some wonderful memories that will stay with me for a long time. I hope you do too and that the buzz and energy of the Olympics stays with you.

Looking forward to the start of the Paralympics, and watching more amazing, awe inspiring things.


By Erika Keat

Erika offers Hypnotherapy, CBT & NLP at Waterloo Therapy Rooms on Wednesdays all day, please contact Erika for more information.      

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